Going to the Core

In my last blog I promised to write about core beliefs – what they are and where they come from. Core beliefs are those beliefs that are buried within the subconscious mind influencing us, motivating us, and even driving us to respond to life in ways that reinforce these core beliefs. This would be great if the core beliefs were all positive. However, the majority of these core beliefs were formed when we were little children, without an understanding of the situations that caused these beliefs.

When we were born, we had not yet formed the critical factor, the part of our conscious mind that allows us to reason, discern, and filter out what isn’t logical. We don’t start to develop it until we are about 6 years old, and it is not fully developed until adolescence. Prior to this development, we take everything in as if it is absolute fact. If a parent is impatient with us, we cannot reason that this is because they are stressed about something that has nothing to do with us. We take it very personally and form a core belief that there is something wrong with us. If we share an opinion and get ridiculed for it, we form the core belief that it isn’t safe to speak freely.

Our parents’ modeling also helps form some of our core beliefs. My parents modeled that it was very very very hard to get anywhere in life. They modeled that it was important to have a good work ethic, to work very hard; but they also believed that no matter how hard you worked, you could just get so far. Their motto seemed to be, “Persevere with the status quo.” Hence, as I discovered in my previous post, The Big Dig, I seem to act on that core belief by working very hard, but when I begin to get close to moving beyond the status quo, procrastination rears its ugly head. Going to the core

So how do we change these core beliefs? Like an apple, the core is beneath the surface. Since core beliefs reside in our subconscious minds, we need to do “inner” subconscious work in order to bring them to conscious awareness. We work through this on the subconscious level in order to shift from the “lie” of the core belief into the “truth.” You see, if a core belief is negative and doesn’t serve our best interest, we can guarantee that it is a lie. For example, a core belief that surfaced while I was in hypnotherapy training 20 years ago was “I don’t matter. I’m not good enough.” Without even knowing I had this core belief, I can look back and see how I was working very hard to prove to everyone what a great person I was and how good I was at everything I did. But you see, no matter how many people complimented me, it was never enough, because I had the core belief that I wasn’t quite good enough. Once I had the hypnotherapy session that allowed this core belief to surface, I was able to shift (on a subconscious level) to the truth, and the truth is that I matter very much, and I am perfect just the way I am. (Not to mention that I have many great traits, and I am very good at many, many things.)

So now, I think I will bypass the procrastination and go work on the website.



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