Shame on You for Shaming Us

I particularly wanted to talk about hypnosis today, but didn’t have a clear idea of just what I wanted to say about it.  So I got out the OH Cards again to see where they might take me, and how I can relate it to hypnosis.  (Note the picture to this blog which shows the word card – Shame – framing  the picture card.) Let’s see where this goes.

As I look at the picture, it appears to be two people looking out the front window of a car.  There is a Yield sign ahead, clearly a road veering off to the right, a not-so-clear road ahead, and a rear view mirror with nothing reflected.  The picture is framed by the word SHAME. 

Whose shame is it, anyway?

Whose shame is it, anyway?

What I know about shame is that it is always given to us by someone else’s disapproval of us.  Someone else gives it to us.  It’s not even ours.  Yet we continue to carry around someone else’s shame, as it continues to undermine our self-esteem.  Doesn’t seem quite fair, does it?


These cards seem to reinforce that as we move through life with someone else’s shame, we are yielding our right-of-way to them.

So where does the hypnosis come in?  Remember the rear-view mirror that isn’t reflecting anything?  Our conscious mind is not always aware of how the past is affecting our present.  By allowing our subconscious to present to us (in hypnosis) those who gave us this shame, we can metaphorically give it back to them.  Maybe even tell them, “Shame on you for shaming us!”  Give them the opportunity to do whatever they want to do with this shame,  EXCEPT they cannot give it back to us. 

Once we have gotten rid of the shame, we can ask our subconscious to replace it with something that is healthy for our self-esteem.  (The subconscious mind is very good at picking just the right replacement.)

To the conscious mind, this may sound weird, but to the subconscious mind, it is very real.  It is the subconscious mind that has carried it around all these years, and it is the subconscious mind that will let it go and replace it with something positive.



For those interested in the Oh-Cards, I purchased them from

3 Responses to “Shame on You for Shaming Us”

  1. Tina says:

    I feel the need to get out of that car and walk through the green grass.

  2. Celeste says:

    Very well written – incredibly insightful, delightfully engaging. Thank you!

  3. Tamara says:

    This is such an insightful perception of the card. I am especially intrigued by the yield sign. I wonder who that represents for me?

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